Bridal showers have become old hat for me. There were the ones I went to when I was of marrying age (I am claiming that as the 20 something years). Now, I am attending those of my daughters’ friends. Not much has changed over the years with the exception of including men, or to be more specific, the significant other of the bride-to-be and her guests. I tend to lean towards a ladies-only gathering for a bridal shower, just my preference. The gifts, games, and party favors are still the standard fare.
Recently, I attended a bridal brunch of a family friend where a group of women gathered for brunch and the opportunity to speak into the life of the bride-to-be. Most were mothers, like me, and a few others were younger friends of the bride-to-be. I had asked the sister of the bride-to-be prior to the event if there was a registry for the couple so that I may bring a gift. As it turned out, the young couple had not yet decided on a registry. Therefore, the bridal brunch would not be the typical gathering that I had been used to attending over the years.
First and foremost, the bride’s family is from Venezuela. The mother of the bride speaks very little English and most of the attendees were Hispanic with the exception of me, two of my daughters, and another young lady. Needless to say, there was a lot of translating going on for the four of us.
Secondly, the love that the women around me had for the young bride-to-be was heartfelt. They spoke with passion as they shared their advice with such color and animation. And even though I could only understand a few words here and there, I understood their desire to see the young bride-to-be grow in her upcoming marriage and convey the importance of faith and community. My heart was filled with thanksgiving as I sat amongst these ladies
Lastly, even though English was the second language at the bridal shower, I understood and felt the love of a much bigger family. A family that is gracious with their words and actions, an example that I encourage and strives to uphold. A cultural lesson in love.
A family I am thankful to be part of.